Discipline

Saturday, July 28, 2007



I feel so lousy.

I spanked Ch today. And shouted at her.

I did an action that shocked me too... I held her shoulders and shook her hard while scolding her.

All these happened as she behaved badly today. And it didn't happen just once or twice. It went on almost the whole day today.

It started when we brought her to a nearby coffeeshop for breakfast. She wanted me to carry her though I had to buy food. I left her with ZY and asked him to feed her breakfast. She ended up crying for me and refusing her daddy to feed her. We tried to explain the situation and after some time, she stopped.

Then nearing the end of our breakfast, she started fussing and kept whining and asking me to carry her. Trying to be patient and not create a scene, I told her to keep quiet but promised to carry her once I was done with my breakfast. She carried on. I ended up having to punish her when we reached home.

Back home, I had to mete out the punishment stated. It was time out for her at our "punishment door". Of course, she wailed loudly the whole time. This got ZY very angry too. After the episode ended, I explained the rationale for punishing her and she agreed to behave herself. She also apologised and we hugged each other.

Everything went on well after that. But the whole thing repeated again during her bath. She refused to turn off the water tap and cried loudly. This time round, it was louder and lasted longer. In the end, she was back at the punishment door.

Even when we went to Jurong Point after dinner, she threw tantrums quite a few times when we stopped her from doing some things.

The last incident happened after she went to bed. She's having a cough and runny nose today, so she woke up coughing after sleeping for an hour. She coughed persistently and started to cry. Then, she vomited and dirtied the floor and my clothes. I had to quickly change and bathe her before putting her to bed again. But she kept on crying and insisting on going to bed with her dirty clothes. This was the last straw. I lost my cool and started shouting at her, while shaking her small petite body.

I feel so lousy now. How could I have done such a thing to her?

Charlene, if you are reading this, Mommy is very sorry ya? It really breaks my heart to have to discipline you. But I'm just so irritated by your cries. And if I don't discipline you and stop you from throwing tantrums, I'm just so afraid that you'll turn out to be like some irritating students I have in school.


~ Update | June 5, 2014 | Now that I'm a mom of 3 kids, I have learnt so many parenting strategies through my own experience and from friends. Reading this post 7 years later makes me realise that I have indeed grown more mature and wiser as a mom. 

To help those of us who are still struggling to find the most appropriate way to discipline our children, you can read some useful parenting articles here and here

There is also a book that I'm reading now on "How to talk so kids will listen & Listen so kids will talk" by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish. It's a national bestseller. You might wanna get hold of this book and try out some strategies. I am only at Chapter Two but I like how the book uses comics to bring out its strategies. A summary of this book is found here

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Tell me, how do you discipline your child when he throws a big tantrum?

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7 comments

  1. hey, you are doing a great job already for the whole day staying so patient. I don't know what i would have done if i were you...

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  2. hey mary, don't worry, you're not alone. a lot of us do this and feel this many times too.

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  3. It's hard to know right now whether what we're doing is good for them. We may feel bad now, but maybe it was the right thing to do, when you look at the kids in future? I know I was spanked a lot and very terribly when I was young. I think I turned out alright, and I certainly don't hate my mom.

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  4. "The story of a mother's life: Trapped between a scream and a hug." -- and this is just the beginning mary =)

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  5. Someone once said, "There is no guilt-free mothering..."

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  6. I think you are better than my mum man! My mum will pinch me on the spot immediately to quiet me down. :) dun worry. if you spare the rod, you will spoil the child.

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  7. Hey mum, very sorry. Dont need to feel lousy. My fault one. Sorry for speaking in singlish. dont send me for tuition!!!!!!!

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