The flume ride which was so popular in the 1990s.

Stage performance (1991)

Funny street performance about Wu Song and Pan Jin Lian (1992)

Stage performance (1994)

I've been wanting to write about K's experience on the ECMO as a record of her battles won at the PICU. Today, I found the motivation to do so. This is for you, Chiew Nee. Though we have not met before, the text exchanges make me feel like I've known you longer than the actual. Maybe it is because of the familiar worry we have for our little ones. Remembering your family as you make decisions on how to help little R, and for R as he fights to overcome his heart issues and pulmonary hypertension problem. 

It happened on 3rd of Feb this year - the fourth day of the Chinese New Year celebrations. The usual festive celebrations and visits to our relatives were replaced by camps at the paediatric ICU as K had a severe bout of respiratory infection (bronchiolities followed by pneumonia) due to the metapneumovirus. By the third day of admission, she had regressed so much that the doctors had to intubate her to support her breathing. Even then, she did not do well. Doctors had to increase her oxygen and nitrous oxide gases, as well as the pressures from the ventilator. She had to receive a blood transfusion, which unfortunately, triggered some reactions in her body and made the situation worse. It probably caused some kidney damage, resulting in the need for kidney dialysis. Thankfully, this was just a temporary treatment. 

On the fifth day of admission, Dr Terence broke the news that I was dreading to hear. K had worsened so much that she had to be put on ECMO (Extracorporeal Membrane Oxygenation) and that was her only hope of survival. Dr Terence has always been very encouraging and positive in how he handles K's case, and though his words came out with love and concern, they cut through my heart. 

If she were my child, he said, I would let her do this. 

I started crying. Very badly. It was one thing to know that my child had to go through this high-risk treatment, it was another thing to realize that she was dying. I must have looked very "unglam" at that time, but I couldn't care less. 

What is ECMO then? ECMO is a heart and lung bypass machine that takes over the functions of the heart and lungs so that the organs get to rest and heal over time. Two cannulas (tubes) are inserted into the right side of the neck to allow blood to be drawn from the body into the ECMO circuit and back to the body (note: there are other ways of administering ECMO). This treatment is administered to patients as a last resort when all other treatments fail to improve the condition. K almost needed ECMO when she was first hospitalised and diagnosed with pulmonary hypertension in 2013, but she managed to pull through before that happened. So naturally, we (ZY and I) associated ECMO with dying and wanted to avoid it. It also comes with high risks that will lead to many complications - even death. For example, there could be bleeding in the body due to Heparin (an anti-clotting medicine) which thins the blood to prevent blood clots in the ECMO circuit. If bleeding occurs in the brain, it can cause brain damage or death. There is also increased risk of infection, as blood is exposed to the outside environment of the body. A stroke may occur if blood clots form in the body. The ECMO process works by having an intricate balance of all the components involved to prevent any of the complications we feared. There were many children who still lost the battle despite being on ECMO. However, this scary process was the only option left to give K a chance to rest her frail body, and hopefully to be able to survive it all, else she would definitely lose her life. 

The numerous machines supporting K during her battle

The cannulas that bring blood to the ECMO machine and back to K

During the 9 days of ECMO, the (big) team of doctors, nurses and respiratory therapists were vigilant in their care for K. There were so many doctors involved in K's case and they met up every morning to check on her and to discuss the next course of treatment as a team. The team constantly monitored her vital signs and watched for signs of discomfort. The Bair Hugger Blanket, an equipment which blows warm air, was brought in to prevent K from losing too much heat during the process (I love that name! Sounds like a furry teddy bear hugging K when it is switched on and keeping her safe and cosy in that big bed). The staff went in and out of her room numerous times, adjusting the equipment around K and tweaking the medications K was receiving. They performed constant checks and maintained the ECMO circuit. They talked to K in a loving way like she was their own. They were also so compassionate to our grieving hearts in their small ways - bringing a chair to let us rest while we kept K company, asking us if we had our meal, and updating us of K's progress every day without fail. Seeing the familiar doctors and nurses around her room gave us a confidence booster, and definitely helped us to have more faith and assurance of her recovery. We can never thank each of you enough! 



K stabilised and progressed positively throughout the ECMO process. There was more life to her body after a week of ECMO. We even spotted her peeping at us through her half-open eyes for a short while. ECMO for her was so successful that when the doctors wanted to stop ECMO for her on the 9th day, I actually asked "Really? Are you sure?" because I didn't want to rock the boat. K was successfully weaned off from the ECMO machine and responded well to post-ECMO treatment. No complications met, except that she required kidney dialysis longer than expected. Though we feared that she had to be put on kidney dialysis after her recovery from PICU, God was merciful and she didn't have to.

Trusting the medical team and leaning on support from everyone helped us tide through this stressful period. Praying for her on my own, as a family and as a church, tripled that peace in our hearts many times more. You may have stopped here because you are looking for positive stories of ECMO patients, or you may have a child who needs ECMO soon. By sharing K's story here, it is my wish that this ECMO warrior has brought hope and encouragement to at least one of you. As her earthly parents, we pray that she will never have to go through this painful path again, but if she had to, we know that God will always be watching over her and giving her what is best. Despite the physical challenges she faced, our princess warrior won the battle through the God's love, and through the help from loving people He sent into our lives. 

The school celebrated Children's Day last year with a Super Hero theme and Ch went as Spidey Girl. This homemade costume was an easy assembly of different components - the mask, Spidey shirt, a pair of blue tights, and a red tutu (idea taken from here). 

Buying a Spiderman costume off the shelves would have cost me $30. And I'll be stuck with another costume in the cupboard after the kids have outgrown their superhero-crazy phase. My actual total damage for this homemade version was less than $10 including unlimited joy of making it. Most of the cost came from the pair of blue tights and the red tulle material and these can be reused in other ways.

The Spidey shirt was borrowed from a friend but you can easily make one with a red blouse and draw the webbing pattern using a fabric marker or do an elaborate version like what this mom did at Shannon Makes Stuff. My friend happened to also have the felt Spiderman mask that I was going to make so I conveniently took it from her too (thanks Pamela!)

I love how the red tutu transforms a Spiderman costume to a cute one for a girl that isn't too feminine! And it's a NO-SEW tutu! How's that as a time-saver!! To make this, I used an elastic band and measured around Ch's waist. Following the instructions by Paging Fun Mums, strips of the red tulle was cut to the desired length and looped around the elastic band. A no-fuss, red tutu completed! 

The only problem to this costume was that I couldn't get a better quality tulle, so Ch complained that the tutu was very rough on her skin and poked her when she sat. 


You can also make cuffs like these using felt or toilet paper rolls which I did for my simple Teachers' Day Spidey Mom costume last year (don't laugh... teachers do have fun too). 



Have fun making your own Spiderman costume!